How to Escape the Trap of Absolutes

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This bed is too hard.  This bed is too soft.  But this bed is just right. Recently, I lost an engagement to another consultant.  Never mind that I had mixed emotions about working with the company.  There were lots of good reasons I was better off not working with them.  But I was, nevertheless, brought up short by their choosing someone else. Part of me was hurt, another part wanted …
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What’s In Your Bowl?

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After couple of rough years – struggles at work, challenges with a child, and an unexpected financial loss, I came across a reference to American monk, Thomas Merton.  He said an essential part the monk’s practice is accepting with gratitude whatever is placed in his bowl for the day.  Deal with what life presents you but be grateful for it! I can tell you that is NOT what I wanted …
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It’s Your Choice

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I’m so angry I just want to tell him off… can you believe he had the nerve to… after all I’ve done… how could he…? Righteous indignation.  There’s nothing like it.  It gives us permission to express feelings, use strong language and stay focused on the flaws of the other person.  As well it revs up the heartbeat, pumps out adrenaline and distracts us from the daily routine of life.  …
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Are You Stymied By The 10%?

I have a drawer, and I bet you do too.  It may be in your kitchen, desk, toolbox or dresser.  That space you mean to clean out and/or organize, but never quite get around to it.  Even you neatniks have a least one place, right?  My messy drawer is the top one in my dresser.  It’s where I keep my jewelry.  I’m not talking diamonds, emeralds and rubies, but those …
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Moving Closer – The Lesson I Always Forget!

Is there someone who irritates you?  Who gets on your last nerve?  The one you least want to talk to at an office party or family gathering?  The one you find any excuse to cut short, lest you get trapped in a conversation you don’t want to have? If you answered NO, consider yourself fortunate.  For most of us?  There is at least someone or sometimes several someones. Recently, I …
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