It’s Your Choice

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I’m so angry I just want to tell him off… can you believe he had the nerve to… after all I’ve done… how could he…? Righteous indignation.  There’s nothing like it.  It gives us permission to express feelings, use strong language and stay focused on the flaws of the other person.  As well it revs up the heartbeat, pumps out adrenaline and distracts us from the daily routine of life.  …
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Are You Stymied By The 10%?

I have a drawer, and I bet you do too.  It may be in your kitchen, desk, toolbox or dresser.  That space you mean to clean out and/or organize, but never quite get around to it.  Even you neatniks have a least one place, right?  My messy drawer is the top one in my dresser.  It’s where I keep my jewelry.  I’m not talking diamonds, emeralds and rubies, but those …
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Moving Closer – The Lesson I Always Forget!

Is there someone who irritates you?  Who gets on your last nerve?  The one you least want to talk to at an office party or family gathering?  The one you find any excuse to cut short, lest you get trapped in a conversation you don’t want to have? If you answered NO, consider yourself fortunate.  For most of us?  There is at least someone or sometimes several someones. Recently, I …
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Are You Ready to Let Go?

Eighteen years ago this month, my house burned down.  It was the house I had bought after my divorce.  Only ten days before, I had finally moved all my possessions into the house.  But in one evening, all my plans for a new beginning went up in smoke. For months after the fire, I kept the voicemail from the alarm company saying the signal at my house was weak.  I …
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Are Your Words Getting in Your Way?

I love being a Southerner.  I grew up with a tradition of hospitality. How nice.  That would be lovely. Aren’t you thoughtful to ask. We’d love to see you when we’re back visiting. There is thoughtfulness, yes, but tentativeness as well. That WOULD be nice (doesn’t necessarily mean yes, I’ll do it). Aren’t you thoughtful (doesn’t mean that I’ll accept your invitation). We would love to see you (doesn’t mean …
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