Try Reflection, NOT Resolutions

At the end of the year do you make New Year’s Resolutions?  Many people do.  For some it’s a time to feel hopeful for a chance to start over.  For others a time for self-recrimination when the year’s resolutions sound a lot like last year’s. Weigh less, exercise more. Make more, save more. Spend more time with family. Learn _________.  (You fill in the blank) You may tell yourself that …
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The Best Christmas Present You Could Ever Give Yourself . . . And It’s FREE!

Christmas is less than a week away! Regardless of what you celebrate, everyone is abuzz: parties, presents, food, family, friends.  And expectations. This time of year everyone has expectations of others and of ourselves. My friend June is just now laboring under expectations (mostly self-imposed) that she has to deliver the perfect Christmas for everyone in her family – meeting all of their expectations.  I know that one well, and …
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Getting triggered – Cutting Off Your Nose to Spite Your Face

“There is nothing so precious as our sense of worth” – Elizabeth Crook In my consulting business, the end of the year is a time to renew agreements with client companies.  We look at their needs for the year, where I can add most value, we consider their budget and come up with something that seems fair to both of us. Sometimes what companies can benefit from and what they …
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The Gift We’re Afraid to Ask For

A couple of weeks ago John, one of my all time favorite clients, called me up almost in tears.  John is a teddy bear of a guy, the size of a linebacker with a genius IQ.  As a successful software engineer, he’s done well in his career so far, and yet his company just passed him over for the second promotion in a matter of months. “They didn’t even interview …
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The List That Can Change Your Life

Is this you? I haven’t been happy at this for the past five or six years. I didn’t really choose this career. I don’t even know what I want to do. Every time I think about leaving it, I feel guilty. Shouldn’t I be grateful for what I have? If you feel this way, you are not alone! Take Susan, a professor with tenured status, who came to me after …
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