Moving Closer – The Lesson I Always Forget!

Is there someone who irritates you?  Who gets on your last nerve?  The one you least want to talk to at an office party or family gathering?  The one you find any excuse to cut short, lest you get trapped in a conversation you don’t want to have? If you answered NO, consider yourself fortunate.  For most of us?  There is at least someone or sometimes several someones. Recently, I …
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Are You Ready to Let Go?

Eighteen years ago this month, my house burned down.  It was the house I had bought after my divorce.  Only ten days before, I had finally moved all my possessions into the house.  But in one evening, all my plans for a new beginning went up in smoke. For months after the fire, I kept the voicemail from the alarm company saying the signal at my house was weak.  I …
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Are Your Words Getting in Your Way?

I love being a Southerner.  I grew up with a tradition of hospitality. How nice.  That would be lovely. Aren’t you thoughtful to ask. We’d love to see you when we’re back visiting. There is thoughtfulness, yes, but tentativeness as well. That WOULD be nice (doesn’t necessarily mean yes, I’ll do it). Aren’t you thoughtful (doesn’t mean that I’ll accept your invitation). We would love to see you (doesn’t mean …
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How To Find Your Own Personal Genius

Jason, a bright and creative 40 something, faced two attractive business opportunities.  Both have risk.  Both demand time and energy.  Both offer significant but not guaranteed financial rewards. Jason is in a quandary.  Which option to choose?  Or should he do neither? “It’s hard to know what to do.  You talk about finding your YIPPEE.  Some days I wonder if I should just become a paddleboard instructor and live a …
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Illegitimi Non Carborundum

Don’t let the bastards grind you down. This Latin phrase, popularized during WWII, always draws chuckles and after the chuckle, the head nodding.  Yep good advice, I gotta remember that. But unlike WWII, “the bastards” aren’t an opposing army, they may actually be people who are on your side: friends, spouses, colleagues, the boss, or a family member.  These people can sometimes be “dream killers”. That’s a crazy idea. You …
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